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  • Anyway

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-08-17 – 16:07:24

    The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent M. Keith in 1968 as part of a booklet for student leaders. It has however, been one of the guiding forces of my life.

    Chances are you have read it before and appreciated the honesty.
    Here it is, for you- Anyway

    The Paradoxical Commandments
    by Dr. Kent M. Keith

    People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
    Love them anyway.

    If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
    Do good anyway.

    If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
    Succeed anyway.

    The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
    Do good anyway.

    Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
    Be honest and frank anyway.

    The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
    Think big anyway.

    People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
    Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

    What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
    Build anyway.

    People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
    Help people anyway.

    Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
    Give the world the best you have anyway.

    Here is the website: http://www.paradoxicalcommandments.com

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  • Grow and let others grow

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-08-14 – 18:34:16

    Here is another complaint I have. Unfortunately I dont know what else to do but complain when it comes to this issue.

    I dont understand why people cant adopt a policy of grow and let others grow (along the lines of live and let others live).

    In the case of examinations for instance, I see no harm in helping (sharing information, doubts or sometimes even that lil private tutor class you had) before the exam, even if the person is bright by themselves. Are you afraid of the competition? I pity your lack of confidence then. What do you gain by keeping so many things a secret, especially when knowledge is something that multiplies every time you share it! If a person is not upto the mark, how many of us have dismissed them as dumb without ever bothering why? How many of us have discouraged any effort from their side? How many of us have gone upto them, spoken to them and motivated them to do better? Actually help them? Not only by giving notes but sometimes your words of confidence and motivation makes the difference not your notes. I believe so atleast.

    Grow while helping others grow,
    Relish the competition your help may give you.
    Glow in the satisfaction you get by the smile on the face of the person whom you helped.

    Thats what I say, I believe and practise.
    I have the confidence to do it.
    Do you?

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  • Identity- Crisis or Multiplicity?

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-08-10 – 07:57:31

    If I were to introspect, I would find myself having three major identities- one each in the professional,family and friends sphere of my life. When I enter my professional sphere I am a focused,competitive,curt person who aims high and achieves the set aim.When I am with my family, I tend to be quieter, almost submissive and out of the limelight. When with friends, I assume an identity which seems like a cross-breed between my identity at my work sphere and family sphere with a streak of fun bonding both of them.Sometimes, I am amazed how effortlessly I slip into the identity when I enter a particular sphere, especially since I recognise the identities to be at the extreme ends of the spectrum.

    The interesting and confusing thing here is I feel perfectly comfortable as long as these 3 spheres, the 3 identities are distinct.The minute they merge or overlap, it leads to what I understand to be identity crisis.By instinct, one of the 3 prominent identities rises to the occasion and more often than not, I feel uncomfortable. Recently, what I have been trying to do, with great difficulty, is dissolve the 3 identities into one. I haven't seen any progress yet. I'm conditioned into adopting a particular identity which suits the dominant sphere. If I may be excused, I wish to generalise my situation to be one which most of us experience.That being the case, I wish to raise a few questions-

    1. If we are the same person with different identities, would I be right in saying that an "identity" is in fact a layer of our "self"?

    2. If we bring in the concept of "self" can we say that the "self" is what remains when all our identities are stripped off? As in the essential characteristics(virtues such as honesty,loyalty etc) which are constant no matter which identity we assume?

    3.If each identity is formed according to the situation,the people around us, could we say that the identity we have is one, not created by us but given to us by the people and the situation?

    The root of these questions, I identify, stems from the fact that a person has multiple identities.

    Thus, the final question- DO we face the issue of identity crisis or that of multiplicity of identities?

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  • Its the thought that counts.

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-08-01 – 12:33:55

    My birthday passed 2 weeks ago- on July 19 to be precise.

    As usual friends asked what i wanted for my birthday.
    As usual, I said nothing.

    Really,I have everything i need and want. I asked them instead to give me whatever amount it was which they wanted to pool in for my gift as a cheque addressed to my mother's charitable organisation.Simple reason, On my birthday, I wanted those who arent as fortunate as I too to have a good time. I wanted to help them. I wanted to bring a smile on their faces. On my birthday, to be honest I was expecting my friends to help me do the same. I believed they too would have understood my intention (especially since I had voiced it) and would have given me the cheque. That is where I guessed wrong. Seems like they didnt. And later once I express my disappointment they say they will give the money.Had I been a person who needed the money, I might have accepted it.With God's grace,I believe my family can continue with whatever good we are doing. We want others to understand what it is to give and see the person for whom their money is being put to use. It comes from within.Not by asking.Its a sad state already that many an organisation has to ask for the money. I wouldnt completely blame them. Many people wonder if their money is being put to good use. But if it were your own friend's organisation whom you know,whose intentions and passion is felt and expressed, wouldnt you consider it? just once atleast?

    What I want is not your money, but your intention to help others, to make the world a better place.

    That would have been the best present.
    Afterall, its the thought that counts.

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  • Friends or fiends?

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-07-30 – 07:13:37

    Sigh..

    I am forced to wonder whether my "friends" are really my friends. Are they the ones i became friends with? our environment hasnt changed.They dont seem to be the same, not necessarily in a good way. I havent changed, not much atleast. If I have, then I know I have a few friends who will come and tell me I have changed. I know for sure because it has happened before.

    So, it seems logical to assume that indeed it is them who have changed. Incomprehensible,almost childish anger, broken promises without guilt and what not. So much seems different now from every perspective. What makes it worse is when they pretend not to be doing something when they are(I say with proof) and further deny it when questioned. When I become friends with someone, I give myself. I am honest about everything. If theres something wrong with my friend or something different, positive or negative, I let them know. Thats what I believe to be friendship.I dont know why there is this hesitance to speak to me about me! I might be fiery but afterall, isnt that a part of me? Did you not become my friend knowing i am so?Are you willing to overlook all my other qualities with just this one? Even then, I dont understand.I am happy with myself. I know there are lots of areas I need to work upon but as of today, I wouldnt want myself to be any different. Then why do these people who call themselves my friends expect me to be different? Do they actually think I would change because they thought I should but couldnt come up to me and tell me at my face and instead use a third person's name? Maybe if they had told me or tell me directly that they are unhappy with such and such behaviour of mine, I might consider it. Afterall, I too can go wrong and not realise it.

    I dont know whether they under-estimate me or have over-estimated themselves.

    I just hope its the latter.

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  • Bombed

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-07-28 – 18:57:44

    Bombs here. Bombs there.
    Here a bomb, there a bomb,
    Everywhere bomb bomb
    Old Dear terrorists have lots of bombs
    EE AA EE AA OO

    Sigh.. I suppose generations hence that would be an excerpt from the new version of Old McDonald had a farm.

    Lives being lost.
    Fear induced.

    More than the first, I think its the second thing which gives them the power to continue. People fear for their lives, their own and that of their loved ones.Life as we know stops for a day.

    I didnt want to stop. I was forced to. My family's love bound me like none other. How much longer are we going to let them-the attackers feel we are afraid? When are we going to go up and show them there is a lot more to us? Please. I truly regret the lives lost. I wish we could all stand up and do justice to their unnecessary deaths.Let the attackers know that they have no control over our free spirits.

    Frustrating me further is how the political parties are trying to make it a political issue!! KNOCK KNOCK @!$#%@& People are afraid. People have lost their loved ones.People have lost their property and what do you do? Blame the ruling party for lack of security measures, foul play and what not.

    Pathetic.

    If things continue like this, our future is BOMBED.

    I am not willing to accept it.
    If not for my family, I would be out there fighting loud and clear in anyway I can.Unfortunately, my respect and love for my family forces me to restrict myself to my blog.

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  • Morality of Wars

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-07-28 – 18:47:28

    First- A confession.

    I seriously doubt if wars(Referring to wars using weapons-not the peaceful wars for changes and environment) are even in the realm of moral debate. Morality, once again is a highly subjective matter. What seems moral and justified to me may seem otherwise to you and vice-versa.

    Assuming wars do fall under the realm of moral debate,I would strongly say that a war's so called morality lies in the cause of the war, the logical reasoning behind waging the war. Most of the times, I am forced to accept that they are illogical by my reasoning and hence I come to my stand that wars are immoral.Here are some of my thoughts on the matter.

    Take for instance the India-Pakistan Kargil War which started because certain Pakistani infiltration into the Indian part of Kashmir was observed by the Indians but denied by the Pakistanis.From there several reasons have been put up as to why the war must continue to be waged of which self-respect is one.I present a few reasons why I feel it shouldnt continue to be waged.

    1. You want the land, for its beauty,for its people. What are you going to do with a land which now no longer holds the splendour it once did all thanks to your incessant bombing? Whom are you going to rule if you wipe out the population or drive them away from their homes?

    2. People in the armed forces may have pledged their lives in service to the nation. Do remember, they too are humans with needs,wants,desires and more importantly they too are a part of a family. Think about the person and their family.How many times have we heard of fathers never seeing their child because they lost their lives fighting. The emotional turmoil they(the soldiers and their families) go through is heart wrenching when thought of empathetically. The lives lost,the hurting misery caused and felt- does it justify the end which none can see as of now?

    3. I agree war and military operations are a huge expenditure and some even consider it an industry. Imagine if all the money invested in the war was used for other purposes which directly affect us, the commoners how much more growth we will attain.

    4.Many say they sleep soundly in their homes with the comfort of knowing they are well protected by the defense forces. I question that lot, if you proclaim so, have you ever shed a single tear for every life lost there for your sound sleep? I assure you, if you had you would be crying most of your days.

    5. Immediately comes an argument, do you expect us not to develop our armed forces, not to improve our defense standards? I would like to clarify saying I say use defense as defense not as an attacking mechanism. Issues are bound to arise, give it a try the peaceful civilised way.After all what justice would it be if we call ourselves the civilised species if we are going to resort to barbaric,animalistic ways of resolving conflicts? War will not solve everything. Most probably, the issue would only snowball into some meaningless battle of forces.Sometimes, the real issue lays forgotten.

    I have taken an example close home but I would say the reasons I have put forth as to why wars are immoral and injust in my opinion are applicable to any war situation existing in the world.

    We have often heard of "Its the journey(means) which counts, not the end." Wars as a mean of achieving an end, does not, in my opinion ever justify the end. More often than not, the end is not what you had thought it would be.

    Life may be a game.Mind you, Its a game alright- A game in which you cant give life to a dead character. You get to play it only once you have got to play smart and well.

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  • Baby's year!!

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-07-03 – 06:08:29

    WHAT IS GOING ON??!!

    This year definitely has babies in the news!!

    A couple of months ago came the news of a lady delivering her baby in the train washroom and realising it only when she comes back to her seat. Miraculously the baby lived, unhurt. Now its called "Rajdhani Radha" in memory of her birth.

    Right.

    Hardly a month later comes another toilet baby. But this episode unlike the other one evoked fury and disgust in me. A 11th Grade girl whose parents are doctors apparently, says she didnt even know she was pregnant and was shocked to deliver the baby in her house's washroom. Sorry, girl but you seriously need to keep an eye on your personal hygiene!The parents remark irked me more- "Our daughter has always been plump, we didnt realise she was pregnant, else we would have definitely done something about it." I'm stumped.

    Sometime in between, babies got swapped and parents fighting that "the boy baby" was theirs. ARGH!! I so ache to ask the parents-"Whats wrong with a girl baby u fool? you are a girl yourself!!" Unfortunately i cant.

    Next, on June 30th, Kolkata, India a woman gave birth to a premature baby boy who was declared to be a still born only to be found alive 6 hours later by a child specialist. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON HERE???!!! As if that aint bad enough, the Chief defends his staff. Mister, what happened to your doctor on call? Why arent your nurses efficient? "Maybe the signs of life were too feeble to notice" What?! Lets say a dumb person has a heart attack. Are you going to say, sorry, we didnt hear him so we couldnt treat him?Duh!! he cant talk remember! What crap are you people dishing out?! To think that they think that this country of such huge population is gonna accept rubbish, THINK AGAIN. Atleast i wont! Seeing the Media reports(even if exagerrated) most of the country aint okay with it either!

    Sigh..these four were the ones which got media attention. Goodness knows how many more..

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  • Head or heart?

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-06-26 – 18:18:55

    Head or heart?

    Whom do you allow to rule?

    A common question for which i have no definite answer. Most people I know dont. Maybe even you dont. I suppose the reason is that we never follow only the head or only the heart.Its generally a mix of both or the situation is such that we go with one of them. The heart. Hmm.. i have always wondered is it the "intuition" or the "impulse" or "emotions" they refer to when they talk about the "heart" ruling.I still dont know. What i do know is that there are a few people who go about saying that being impulsive is a quality of our ancestors and animals in a degrading manner. As usual, i disagree. How can one deem something like impulse as low? When you come to think of it, more often than not, a person's most important decision, however well thought of, is done on impulse and that impulse is covered with explanations.By the way, arent we born because of an impulsive action?;)(well, maybe not always..)I find it pretty sad that most people dont have guts to accept their impulsive action with pride. Trust me, life is far more fun when you are impulsive. Being impulsive does not mean u have to be foolhardy. You do have to apply your powers of forethought and figure when it is fine to be impulsive and when its not. Assuming, your brain konks out(mine is prone to)trust your intuition. Somehow or the other, life is beautiful. Have fun. Let loose:D and when you do, you would discover a whole new range of emotions making life all the more exciting and colorful.

    But coming back to the initial question, when a person talks about the "heart" ruling what is being referred to? Impulse? Intuition? Emotion?or a combination of all three?

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  • How did it all begin?

    by PrincessSnk @ 2008-06-26 – 17:01:22

    A question which has long been in my mind has yet not been answered. I must say its not like i havent tried.

    How did language evolve? yes, i agree from sign language to pictures to symbols to alphabets etc My question is how is it that one person understands what the other person is telling. i mean if its an object,someone kept in a leader's position may have said the word and voila! it stuck on. Ofcourse we cant ignore the borrowing of words from other languages. But when it comes to emotions or basically intangible things how is it that early men and women understood what is being referred to?

    Thats the big question.

    If there is a complex play of words or ambiguous statements,i understand how there are several chances of misunderstanding the statement.However how did it all start? Just nature's beauty? OR does science have an answer? a logical answer as it forever proclaims?

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